Hello With This Favor Readers!
One of the most common complaints of brides are their grooms don’t seem to be as into the wedding planning as they are. Don’t get us wrong – brides don’t want the groom to overtake the entire event, but a bit of togetherness is a wonderful thing when it comes to planning such a big event. So how can you get him involved?
Give Him Specific Tasks
If you’re the super-organized type, go through your to-do list and pass a few things along to him. If not, simply have a conversation about what aspects of the wedding he would like to take on. Talk about it together and decide what things he will be responsible for. If he has some special talents, make sure to put them to work! Some great tasks for the gorgeous groom in your life are:
- Select and coordinate with DJ
- Prepare envelopes for vendor’s monetary tips and other payments for the wedding day
- Coordinate groomsmen attire and gifts
- Create a wedding website
- Plan the honeymoon
- Price out wedding favors and bar options
- Come up with a signature cocktail
You don’t need to split the tasks up completely – it might work better to take tasks on together. Have fun with it! Make a day of checking out venues, go listen to some bands together, or head to the cake shop to try samples (hint: guys love tasting cake samples!). Lure him in with something fun at the beginning, and before you know it–he’ll be taking charge!
Ask Advice
Get your groom involved in the planning process from day one. Take his input seriously and work together to create a day that suits both of your personalities. Let him know how much you value his opinion!
While he may not care as much as you do about what shade of lavender the tablecloths are, he might have strong opinions about other parts of the day. Remember to really listen when he brings up a subject – just like some things that are important to you aren’t a big deal to him; he might have strong feelings about aspects you have not considered! Share your feelings with each other and remember to lay a strong foundation for your future by respecting each other every step of the way.
When the Going Gets Tough…
Occasionally, even the most even-tempered brides and grooms-to-be view things differently. He likes chocolate, you want vanilla. He wants an open bar, you don’t see the point. The list goes on. When you reach a stumbling point, it’s important to really sit down and talk it out. Communicate! Once you each see where the other person is coming from, chances are you can come up with a compromise that makes each person happy!
For some couples, weddings seem to take over the entire relationship. Remember to take time out from wedding planning to enjoy each other’s company, have fun, and keep whatever drew you together in the first place alive, strong, and healthy.
The wedding will only last one day – but the marriage is forever!
